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13 May 2009

Evaluation and Assessment

I had my ninety day review yesterday at work. It went rather smoothly, and quickly. The meeting took all of seven minutes.

No raise. But that was to be expected, considering the firm layoffs happening nationally. I am thankful that I even have a job.

Overall, the firm is happy with my performance. The adjectives they used to describe me were "thorough", "responsive" and "reliable".

Yes, that's who I am. Good ol' reliable.

The same adjectives can be used to describe a dog.

After my work review, I thought about evaluating myself on a personal level - sort of a mid-year assessment on the goals that I set for myself earlier this year. I realized that in all other areas of my life, I haven't been as thorough and as reliable. I've slacked off on the things in life that really matter, like making a positive difference in this world and simply being happy with myself.

It's not too late to start again.

In other news, G started a pre- pre-school program. It's a daily playdate where she can be with other kids for a few hours a day. They play, sing songs, and draw. There is no real curriculum. It's just a place for kids to be happy. She loves it. She came home the other day with a gold star. She was so proud of herself.



"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about." ~ Angela Schwindt

"There are no seven wonders of the world in the eyes of a child. There are seven million." ~ Walt Streightiff

8 Grinds:

-Papa said...

Yesterday Pre-school, tomorrow University. Oh how the time flies. ;-D

From what I've read happiness has four levels. The base level is pleasure, and it's associated with the body, but pleasure relies on an external stimuli, sex, food, drugs, exercise, etc., and people on this level place themselves in bondage by being addictive to external stimuli to feel pleasure.

The next level up is happiness, but this is associated with the mind/ego. Like pleasure, it's dependent on something from the outside. A person on this level can fell happy from winning a competition, but then feel as quickly unhappy when he meets a challenger he can't defeat.

The third level up is joy. Joy is of the spirit, and unlike the other two lower levels, joy is from within and not originating from an external source, however an external source can slightly influence joy, but only temporarily. A person on this level is feeling good and when something bad happens they may feel a little down, but then they return to feeling joy.

Children are like this, they're still in contact with their inner joy. They'll be playing and having fun, then fall down and cry, but then they're up again laughing and playing. The beauty of joy is that it's always with us, we don't have to search for it.

There is one final level to all this, that even transcends joy. It's called bliss, and it happens when you're free of your ego and have reached nirvana, satori, enlightenment, etc.

Geez, did I just type all this? :-O

Beebe/Drucilla said...

(hugs) Glad that things are going for you. Your baby girl is off to the road to higher learn education wise and hopefully she will turn to you to help learn about the other education called real life.

Ticharu said...

Yup, pre-school one day and univercity a couple years later... very true! Not to get ya down though, but time does really excelerate, so do what you can to slow it down.

Sugar Bliss Sweets said...

G is adorable! I recentlY spent time with a 1.5 and a 2.5 and it was wonderful! Time with them reminded me that happiness is easily acquired...we just have to slow down and play! I'm glad everything is going well at work hun. Sending hugs and kisses <3

Sky said...

a sweet photo of beautiful g!

Dirk said...

Nova,

Regrettably I have not visited your blog for a few weeks so this comment applies to your recent postings.

Sorry to hear your circle of friends is less then it used to be. Hopefully those that remain are good friends :-)

I consider you to be a good vfriend -:

It is funny how we set these lofty goals than feel disappointed when we do not achieve them. Based on your postings about G.I would counter that you are doing just fine with your goals.

Dirk

Vee said...

Your daughter is beautiful. *touchwood* and the two quotes you have in the end are perfect. I was once told that I seem to have a child-like wonder and delight in appreciating some things in life and at the time I was glad to hear it after being surprised that someone noticed it. I think the quote by Streightiff is important to remember as often as possible and I hope you're able to take time from being dependable and reliable to look at wonder at some of the everyday things around you. :)

Seraphine said...

ok, i see the problem. you see yourself as reliable. but but but... they also said you were responsive!
you'd be surprised how many non-responsive people there are in the world. they don't listen. they don't taste their food. they've never had an orgasm.
can you imagine living like that?
hey, take being responsive as high praise indeed. that's pretty awesome, when you come to think about it.
you're not just reliable. you're reliable and responsive! that's what differentiates a sports car from a buick.
look at G. wow pre-shool already. and she has the best mama ever.